Parenting mistakes Asian parents make are often rooted in good intentions—but sometimes these habits do more harm than good. From being overly strict to ignoring emotional needs, these are not just random errors but patterns many families repeat. Understanding the parenting mistakes Asian parents make is the first step toward change.

We read countless articles on how to train children properly, but have you ever considered that parents also need training?

Yes, you read that right! 

Parenting education is just as crucial as raising children because it directly impacts how children are nurtured.

There are certain things that parents unintentionally overlook, which have a profound effect on a child’s personality and character.

Let’s reveal some of these overlooked aspects.

Imposing Your Dreams on Your Child

“My daughter will become a doctor!”

“My kid will be an engineer!”

These are common statements parents use when envisioning their children’s future.

While having aspirations for your child isn’t wrong, forcing them to fulfill your unaccomplished dreams can create immense mental stress.

I once met a father who deeply respected the medical profession and considered it            a noble way to earn a living. 

His eldest child, however, had a passion for arts. 

When the child asked,

“Dad, what should I pursue?” 

the father wisely replied, 

 “Dear, follow what you love, but if you choose medicine, it would make  me happy.”

This is the best way to express your wishes—without creating pressure. 

Your child should not feel that choosing a different path means failure or disappointment for you.

On the other hand, some parents push their children too hard, burdening them with their own unfulfilled dreams. 

This leads to unnecessary mental stress, making children feel that if they don’t comply, they are not successful.

Fulfilling Every Demand—Right or Wrong

Believe it or not, this is one of the biggest injustices you can do to your child. 

If you provide them with every luxury without effort, 

what will they strive for in life?

Children need to have something to work towards; something that teaches them persistence and resilience. 

Excessive pampering only spoils them.

Even if you can afford to fulfill every wish, the world outside won’t treat them like royalty.

Over-indulged children struggle with rejection and often lack problem-solving skills.

When they step into the real world, where they cannot always get what they want, they find it unbearable.

A wise military officer once told his children: 

I am the officer, not you. If you want these privileges for a lifetime, work hard for them. The only inheritance I will leave you is strong values and ethics.

Overindulging children also makes them intolerant of rejection. When they grow up, they expect the world to revolve around them. 

If things don’t go their way, they react aggressively, making life difficult for themselves and those around them.

Teaching Hatred Indirectly

Who teaches their children to hate? you may ask.

Well, actions speak louder than words. You may not teach hatred directly, but your tone, behavior, and interactions do the job for you.

Children absorb their surroundings like a sponge. If they constantly hear arguments, grudges, and gossip at home, they internalize these behaviors. 

Even if your words are based on truth, negative discussions shape their mindset in unhealthy ways.

Parents should especially avoid discussing family politics or conflicts in front of children. 

Even if your words are true, they influence the child’s mindset negatively. 

Their minds are like soft iron, which only needs love to be shaped properly. If you expose them to hatred early on, they will grow in that direction.

Repeating the Mistakes of Your Parents

One of life’s greatest lessons is that if something wrong happened to you, you shouldn’t let it happen to others. But unfortunately, majority follow the opposite approach.

Some parents believe, “If I suffered, my children should experience the same hardships to become as good as I am.” 

But just because you had a tough childhood doesn’t mean your child should too.

• If you were overworked as a child, it doesn’t mean your child should be burdened the same way.
• If you were physically punished or emotionally neglected, that doesn’t mean your child deserves the same treatment.

Some parents even enforce illogical rules on their children just because their own parents did the same. But life is about learning and improving—not repeating mistakes.

Break the cycle. Heal your wounds so you don’t pass them on.

Balance is Everything

When a child is born, God has already made provisions for them—both a mother’s love and a father’s protection. 

But love isn’t just about saying sweet words every day; it’s about actions, presence, and understanding.

History remembers people’s stories; it keeps their essence alive. So how can a parent forget the impact they leave on their child’s life?

Never label your child as a good kid or bad kid. 

Being a true parent means listening not only to what your child says but also to what they don’t say.

Children are not things to be molded, but are people to be unfolded.