Books are always a blessing, but if a book is written by a writer who shakes your mind and also speaks to your heart, then such writers are truly rare. And if it’s said that the world needs such writers, it wouldn’t be wrong.

I’m not writing this book review to give you an excuse not to read the book, but to help you understand why you need this book, and what it conveys that we are missing in our lives.

I’ll write in bullet points so you may remember the reasons to read the book later and uncover the realities in your own way.

📖 Alone Time = Real Time

The first few pages of the book talk about the writer’s sufferings, how loneliness shaped her and how she found meaning through it.

And it’s not just that we need a little loneliness, we actually need more loneliness than the time we spend with people. We need more time with ourselves than with others to figure out where we’re going in life and what direction we need.

We are often on autopilot – not observing, not questioning. Social media plays a major role in this, training our minds to follow, not think. The author urges us to redefine everything – our thoughts, our habits and our very identities.

📖 How It’s Only You Who Matter in Your Life

She didn’t write this to make us selfish or uncaring, or to say that nobody matters in life.
But the writer talks more about enjoying time with your loved ones, and also finding joy with yourself when nobody is around.

I’m reminded of a story from my childhood, when I used to live in the village.

In my childhood, I used to spend most of my time with my neighbor friends or cousins. We did homework together, went to school together, and played together; that was my daily routine.

But sometimes, when I felt tired, exhausted, or just wanted some quiet place, I would sit alone under a tree or go to the fields in the evening.

My grandmother didn’t like children being alone. She didn’t want me to look like a weirdo.She would always say,

“Why are you sitting alone? Go and play with the other kids.”

But my grandfather would always say:

“Let them figure things out on their own. Let children feel something. Let them sit alone for a while. Let them think for themselves too.”

At that time, I didn’t realize it. But now I do, what it means to be alone and discover new ideas.

Now, I understand what kind of freedom he was trying to give us.

This book shares that same message but in a broader and beautifully simple way.

📖 How You’re Losing Yourself Without Even Realizing It

You can’t fix a problem until you know where the problem is.

And you can’t know where the problem is unless you sit with yourself.

We’ve never looked inward. The amount of time we spend absorbing others’ opinions , not even half of that time have we spent thinking about ourselves or investing in self-care.

Can a person truly be happy if he don’t even know who he is?

Can someone bring love and joy to others if they can’t give it to themselves?

Sorry to say, but such a person often becomes a burden. A burden nobody wants to carry.

This book shows us how to slowly change that, step by step.

There’s a lot more that the writer shared but you’ll only truly understand when you read it yourself. Because everyone reads the book in their own way, and it impacts each person differently.

The real heaven is when you hold the book gently in your hands, sit in a quiet place, and read it word by word, page by page with your own thoughts.

The real blessing is holding with your own hand.

Yuval Noah Harari once said:

you write a book and then the book has its own life and it goes places and it meets people and you really have no idea where it will be going and what kind of impact it will have and that’s a good thing.

There is one more thing, when you reread the book and everything seems more beautiful and different, when every page gives you a new meaning and changes you for the better, that’s when you know it’s a truly special book.