In this blog, everything I say will be based on real-life experiences, not from books or movies—just things I’ve seen happening with my own eyes.

Maybe you’ve come across people who are extremely arrogant, quick to anger, insult others constantly, or even go so far as to commit violence.

Let’s explore the making of villains—not to defend their actions, but to understand the human story behind their transformation.

The Power of Behavior and Its Consequences

The bitterness in our behavior can cause someone unimaginable pain, but not everyone realizes this. Our careless words, judgments, and constant criticism often push a person to the edge. Some absorb it quietly, while others break.

Every created villain carries invisible scars.

People have different emotional capacities — some are mentally stronger, others more sensitive. Some think deeply, while others only skim the surface of their feelings.

Where Does It All Begin?

This process doesn’t start in a courtroom, or on a battlefield — it begins in the mother’s lap. Then it spreads through teachers, books, society, and the people we surround ourselves with.

A person builds their identity based on what they repeatedly hear, especially during childhood. The roots of these destructive behaviors often develop in childhood. A child’s mind is innocent, and what they are repeatedly told, even unintentionally, seeps into their subconscious, and then journey continues with rejection, humiliation, or constant emotional neglect.

Behind every cruel action lies a story of hurt.

Words That Can Damage

Let me give you some examples of words that shape villains:

• You’re completely dull.
• You’re just like your father/mother.
• You’ll always be a failure.
• You’re too weak to make a difference.
• Why can’t you be like them?
• The only way to survive is to hurt them first.

Some words become wounds that never heal. Some minds are soft clay — whatever you carve on them, remains. They begin to believe these things and eventually become them.

No one is born evil — villains are made.

What happens when a person is constantly misunderstood?

When they’re judged for their survival mechanisms instead of being understood for their story?

Society often looks at the final product — the rage, the violence, the bitterness — but ignores the emotional triggers that caused them.

In truth, there is no such thing as monsters in this world. There are only wounded human beings.

The Role of Society in Villain Creation

As they grow, society start judging and labeling them. They lose all sense of identity and feel they don’t belong anywhere.

Eventually, they lose the will to care.

And that’s how a villain is created.

Not in a single day.

Not because they wanted it.

But because no one ever tried to heal them.

What Can We Do?

You don’t have to fix them. You don’t have to agree with them.

Just listen.

Let them speak.

Instead of just proving them wrong, try listening to them.

Most people just want to be heard. You’ll be shocked how many are just starving for someone who sees them. Someone who doesn’t judge them by one mistake or one phase of life.

What if that villain was simply a misunderstood soul, longing for love and compassion?

The Power of Kindness

In this fast-paced world where everyone is chasing success, wealth, and status — take a moment to slow down and show kindness.

Kindness is what remains long after memories fade.

Once, I asked my grandfather, now 75, about a memory from his professional life that stayed with him.

I was driving abroad. A luxury car sped past me so fast I almost lost control. Barely managing to regain it, I saw the car stop. A young woman was driving, and very politely, she apologized to me. I still remember her sincerity to this day.

The point to be noted is when I asked him for a memory, it wasn’t the luxury cars or exquisite meals at fancy restaurants that came to his mind. 

What did he remember?

Someone’s sincerity and kindness.

If someone can remember an act of kindness after so many years, imagine how much it matters to help others in our daily lives.

In a world full of hate, be the voice of compassion.

Be the listener. Be the light. Be the one who sees beyond the surface.

There’s so much more to say, but time is short.

That’s all for now. See you in the next post.